Actually to be quite honest sex before marriage isn't the best choice, and I am willing to give reason to this. 1) You may contract STDs or even spread them along the way if you do end up having sex with a variety of partners, you never know if somebody is lying to you or not. 2) From my perspective, and yes, this is opinionated, I feel that you should lose your virginity to somebody that hasn't taken dozens of others' virginities away as it won't be quite so special. 3) Studies have shown that sex before marriage has caused more stress to the couple. 4) You could get somebody pregnant or even be pregnant, depending on the gender, obviously. 5) You won't be quite so emotional about the whole thing if you're caught in the act and you are married (provided you are with your spouse in this event...and not cheating, however you're most likely to be very embarassed, and the people who walked in on you will be incredibly disturbed)
And just to clear things up: this is where laws don't prevent your marriage. I know that gay couples can't get married everywhere, and they can't get pregnant, however I can't defend them on the STDs.
Never said marriage did prevent them, but yes, you should get tested as well as your partner. However statistically speaking you get more sex and less stress if you do manage to get preggers after marriage.
When I was little, my parents were very careful not to impose their opinions on me about sex before marriage. It wasn't something that was even on my radar. When I was 12, I made the conscious decision to try to be abstinent, because I didn't know myself well enough to be intimate with someone else.
I'm 16 now and I don't know. I don't think there's anything wrong or sinful with having premarital sex. I just don't know if it's something that I personally am ready for. Scratch that, I know that I'm not ready for it. I've never met someone with whom I would feel comfortable experimenting sexually, much less going all the way. I guess I'll just see where my life goes and let it happen when I'm ready.
And who will you have to compare that "shitty partner" to? That's my thing on it. I'm not going to make babies or lose my virginity to someone that I absolutely despise later on down the road. (I understand that marriage has that same risk, but marriage is a little more permanent)
I have a lot of people say "What if hes bad in bed?" Well, because I've never had sex, I wouldn't know. So I guess I'll be bad in bed to. And what's great is that we will learn together. :3
Dude, okay this stamp and you sound really dumb right now. No one is born AWESOME at sex. Sex is something you learn. And forgive me for being the type of person who'd rather practice sex with someone I'm married and IN LOVE with, rather than some sleazy dude I met on the street, which I'm guessing is probably how you had your first time. So, I just proved your point to be total BS.
Huh? Your fatuous opinion aside, did you mean to make this a reply to my comment made over a year ago or to this stamp in general? Either way, you have shown yourself to be incapable of beginner message board use. Please make sure you reply to the correct person or please realize that replying to things written over a year ago is a waste of your time and mine. Thank you and God bless.
No, I choose to insult those who open their legs for everyone instead of waiting for the right person. Whoring your self around before marriage is the WRONG THING TO DO! And you should no better, young lady!
No it's not. Marriage was something made by God. And honestly, if you look at the people who are having sex, they are all stupid numbskulls, I swear! And it's true, I have proof. I've talked with many people who do that stuff, and they are either :A. Losers with no self respect or B. Complete numbskulls. So yes, I have a right to insult them.
I, and many others don't share your beliefs of marriages origin.
You can't base your hate on your personal experience with the people. You have to know every single one of a group of people to say that. Besides, insulting someone just because they have sex is immature and shallow. Apparently those people annoy you, because having sex before marriage is a sin. But you know, you have sinned too. everybody has. Sex before marriage isn't the only/worst one of them.
I have also talked to people, who've had sex. They were awesome, open-minded and friendly. They were beautiful, cheerful and artistic. You don't have a reason to be mean to people, who haven't hurt anybody. Their sex life shouldn't matter to you.
Okay, since you choose to be Mr. Sunshine and happy time, I'm going to put you straight about how dumb non virgins.
Example A: Online, I was talking with this stupid 15 year old. He was going on about how he was a non virgin and how girls were obsessed with his male genitals. And I said, "How many girls have you slept with?" and he said 9!
I asked "Oh, when was your first time" and his reply was "It was in 5th grade, but it was with the girl who is the love of my life, Sarah" Of course, I asked 'Well, if you loved Sarah so much, then what was the purpose of sleeping with 9 OTHER GIRLS?!!?!"
Of course, his dumb answer was "Oh, I couldn't help it. They got on top of me and begged, and I had to give them what they wanted."That was the time I slapped myself in the face really hard, and cursed very loudly. And he was like "Even though I'm only 15,
I know I want to raise a family with Sarah"-Dude, you're f*cking 15, how the f*ck do you know if you are truly in love with this girl or not?!
Example B: There's this girl at my school named Melissa. She's sort of an acquaintance, but of course, she's a non virgin. And one day, she came up to our group and said "Omg, you guys, I'm going to totally tell you all about what sex is like!" I of course asked a few things, and SHE could barely even tell me the answer to them! she didn't even so much as know what parts of her own va*ina were called, she said "Oh, there's like this, clit thingy and that's all I know"
So, these were only 2 examples of people who are non virgins who are complete morons. i could name plenty more, but I think you have the picture now. People who have sex early are most likely people who don't even believe in love. Because they don't believe in marrying each other. And isn't that one of the greatest things someone can do to show that they love them? Hold our a ring and propose to them? Yet with nonvirgins, all they care about is the sex in a relationship. Not the actual love part.
Actually I've been taught that waiting till marriage is not all it is cracked up to be. I've chosen to have sex when I feel that the time is right to do so. It might be before Marriage it might end up ultimately being after marriage, Idk when life will tell me. All I know is when the time comes I will have sex weather I'm married or not.
But I still will choose to wait until I'm on Birth Control.
Indeed. The concept of sex feeling better after marriage is ludicrous. At best the feeling of love is there, and love exists without marriage. Even in terms of morality, it's subjective. I find it moral to try out a product before you buy it, so to speak.